Fall is approaching is school will be back in session, children are talking their parent’s ears off in anticipation to go back to school and see their friends, others are nervous and a bit skeptical but excited, and others are petrified and resent the idea of going back to school. All of these behavior are normal for children to experience, however the last one should be a behavior that should be speculated, some children do not want to go to school for good reasons and many parents force their child in to the school doors without ever sitting down and talking to their child about why he/she does not want to go to school. Here are some reasons of why your child may not want to go back to school.
Bullied- School can be one of the most hostile and hurtful environments for a child, many children often get picked on not by just one student by a whole class of students. Your child might be getting bullied, he might be getting called names, tripped, pushed, shove, beaten, and threatened, this type of confrontation is just enough to deter even the brightest of kids away. If your child is getting bullied you should schedule a meeting with the appropriate officials at the school, if bullying is to the extreme meaning your child is too scared to go to school, then you should not force your child to go to that school, transfer your child into a different school if possible. Bullying is serious and can have grave affects on your child’s emotional health, so talk to your child and ask if he /she is getting bullied, and if your child responds with a yes, don’t laugh or put down your child be understanding and compassionate, be emotionally available for your child, and sit down together and think of ways to make going to school easier, you can encourage your child to positively stand up for himself, and to be strong. I have been picked on before, and I waited until those school bells rang, so I could run home to the comfort of my bedroom, my mother was not there to talk to because she worked so I had to deal with being bullied, alone which has taken a toll on my social skills in the past. Children get bullied because of their race, accent, traditional garb, clothing, looks etc..
Intimadated by the other children’s educational progress- Your child might not catch on as quickly as the other children in the class, this can be very embarrassing as other students will pick up on the difficulty your child is having and turn it into something comical but hurtful. Some students might call your child stupid, retard, or one of the most hurtful sped, sped refers to students who require special education. Feeling like an outcast, and feeling unintelligent your child will prefer to stay out of school and out of class. You should meet with the child’s teacher to discuss any difficulty your child might be having and then request after school help with just teacher and child, so that no children will make fun of your child, you can also sit down with your child and patiently and kindly assist him with his homework. In a lot of instances, children just need that personal attention, and direct instruction from the teacher to help them get along, it might even be difficult for child to pay attention in school because of the distraction of the other students.
Lunch time determines how popular a kid really is, there are many children who seem to attract lunch mates like magnets while there are others who sit quietly, alone, and unnoticed. In high school, I sat alone at an empty table during lunch while every other table in the cafeteria was packed with kids but the one I was sitting at, teachers didn’t even sit at my table, I got pennies thrown at me, and called names it was awful and when the lunch bell rang, I hid in the bathroom, or in the classroom, anywhere I could go to avoid lunch. Your child might not want to go to school because he does not want to go to lunch.
Who said making friends is easy, making friends in school can be extremely hard since children never get judged or acknowledge by the beauty that they posses from the inside, many children are judged by race, orientation, and clothing style etc.. The child who does not have a friend in school will feel horrible and irrelevant inside, so much to the point that he wants to cry and die inside, your child will prefer staying home or ditching school than to feel like this, you may want to encourage your child to enroll himself in after school activities, or clubs so that he can meet other students.
Your child might have problems getting along with the teachers in school, he might fight, threaten, or even back talk teachers, chances are your child will get expelled or suspended from school, you will definitely have to sit down and figure why your child does this. Remember to listen to your child because not all teachers are saints; trust me there are teachers in school that attempt to pick on children, your child may be telling the truth when he says teachers are out to get him.
Your child might have problems adapting to the school atmosphere and if your child is in high school he or she may feel the need to drop out, in this case where the child can not seem to stay in school it would be wise to let your child work at obtaining a G.E.D. or going to Job Corps, which is like college for high school age students because they get to live at school.
