Parents quite often label their teenage children as “trouble makers” or “different” and view those as causes for concern. In the end though, many non-conformist teenagers are neither of those. They are unique and if you allow them to, let you view the world with a completely different perspective. As a parent, how do you know if you have a conformist-teenager? Well the first thing we have to do is to define what a non-conformist teenager is. The definition is someone that just isn’t overly concerned about making a strong effort to fit in with society. This doesn’t mean that they are actively rebelling, but just in general they don’t go out of their way to fit the mold others feel that they should.
As a parent, one of the things that we have to do is make sure our teenagers understand that being different is what makes them special. Don’t try to change your non-conformist teenager. The only rules you should have no leeway in are ones that involve their safety. Explain to your teenager you are willing to allow them to express themselves however they wish as long as it doesn’t endanger themselves or other people. Make it clear this means no drug use or underage drinking of alcohol will be accepted as “expressing themselves. There are many things you can do to help your child express themselves though.
First, don’t force any established religion on them, let them explore the options and make their own choice. Don’t go comparing them to their peers, remember every child is different. Your child is special because they are a piece of you and you created that special individual that is your child. Don’t hold them to a strict schedule, let there be some spontaneity in thier life. Participate in their activities, and let them know that as their parent you can share in the things they enjoy. Encourage them to explore other cultures. As hard as it is to let your child go, give them the option to possibly participate in a semester abroad program. Many high schools offer this option to their students and it exposes them to different cultures and values. Encourage your child to explore the arts, and possibly even enroll in a class with them that will allow the two of you to expand your horizons together.
Parenting a non-conformist teenager does not have to be a difficult task. Don’t view your child as the enemy. Find out what motivates them and use that to your advantage as their parent. If you manage to do this it is likely you will develop a positive relationship with your non-conformist teenager. Make sure you emphasize to your teenager that all you want them to do is follow the rules that pertain to their safety and then to just be themselves. If you do not force values onto your child with this personality trait your relationship can grow to be very strong.
