It is a well-known fact that women want, or rather need, foreplay. A woman’s body needs a little bit more coaxing than a man’s body does. Therefore, foreplay is as important to women as sex is to men. Women enjoy sex more emotionally as well as physically and it helps us reach an orgasm that much faster when we’ve had a good amount of foreplay beforehand. However, since men don’t realize this because they’re so focused on their “goal” they neglect to recognize their significant other’s wants and needs which could lead to resentment and arguments. These things don’t have to happen as long as you appreciate the fact that foreplay is a very important part of every relationship.
In my opinion, the whole relationship (except actual sex) is foreplay. Every word and every gesture in a relationship can be an act of foreplay that can stimulate your wife for hours, days or weeks. It’s quite simple; women want to feel special. When is the last time you heard a woman say, “I think it’s hot when my man looks at other women” or “My man loves me so much that when he comes home and eats my cooking, he belches and passes out in front of the television?
There are so many ways to make your lady feel special. It may cost you money or it can simply cost you some time to think of ways to show your wife you care and respect her. When a woman feels special, sexy, wanted, and loved she’s more apt to do more things for you, which could mean more action in the bedroom at night.
Holding Hands
Holding hands isn’t just for high school or college students, nor is it just reserved for new lovers. I find it so endearing when I see an elderly couple holding hands. You can actually see the love between them in that small gesture alone. Holding hands with your lady shows her that you’re proud to have her by your side and you want everyone to know it. To women it’s a way to feel connected to you and a sign of love and commitment.
Studies have even shown that holding hands can reduce stress. I personally love when my husband holds my hand but then adds in a hand massage. It feels so good and it means more to me because I don’t have to ask him to do it; he knows automatically how much I enjoy it and just does it.
Kissing/Hugging
You shouldn’t just leave the kissing and hugging for when you’re leaving for work or worse yet, when you want sex. Kissing and hugging should be done all the time. The happiest couples I know sneak kisses and hugs in wherever and whenever they can regardless of being in private or in public. Sweet, little kisses to the lips, cheeks, neck, etc. go a long way. Surprise hugs and kisses can always lead to something more. Hugs and kisses are a definite way to show your lady that you love and cherish her.
Touchy Feely
This one is a little tricky. You need to be able to touch your wife without it being all about sex. It’s not just about holding hands or hugging at this point. To be touchy feely you need to be able to do it in a non-sexual manner and be discreet enough so no one around you is aware that you’re essentially “feeling up” your wife in public.
For example, if you’re waiting in line and you’re right behind her you can gently squeeze her bottom and no one would be the wiser. Another example is when you’re in tight quarters such as an elevator you can “accidentally” brush your hand against her chest or other areas, if you’re daring enough.
Flowers/Candy/Small Gifts
If you’ve been dating or married to your lady for quite some time you should know her favorite flower and candy. If you pay attention to her when you’re both out together you should have an idea as to what she enjoys such as reading books by a specific author, stuffed animals, water globes, or maybe movies are her passion. Once in awhile when you’re out on your own it may prove to be a good investment if you were to pick something up for the woman in your life. This shows her that you’re thinking of her when you’re not with her. That fact alone makes women happy; they want to know they’re thought about. When you purchase a gift that shows you put thought into it, it proves to her that you pay attention to her interests.
For example, I casually mention wanting things such as books, movies, household items etc. throughout the year. Since he’s so good at listening to me I end up with practically everything I want whether it’s for my birthday, Christmas or it’s just a surprise gift. But seeing that he listens is a gift in and of its self.
Cuddling on the Couch
As I type the word cuddle I can see most men cringing. I understand that a lot of men don’t like to cuddle. I don’t know the definite reason behind this; maybe they don’t think it’s a masculine thing to do. However, if cuddling is important to your lady than it may be a good idea to do it as long it doesn’t interfere with your life such as it causing you not to get enough sleep.
So maybe you’re not the type of guy who likes to cuddle after sex or before sleeping. At least meet your wife half way and cuddle on the couch while watching a movie or your favorite television shows. Cuddling is a way for your wife to bond with you and since she’ll be feeling closer to you, she just may want to get frisky with you too.
Helping Around the House and With the Kids
This is a big one because it requires you to work without actually being at work. Understandably there are quite a few women that yell when their husbands try to help because “you aren’t doing it right”.
A word to the ladies, just because he’s not doing it the way YOU do it doesn’t mean it’s wrong. My husband and I have two different ways of washing dishes but my way doesn’t get the dishes any cleaner than his way.
Perhaps you’re clumsy and you really can’t help around the house because you seem to create more havoc than help. This just means you can take care of the kids instead so they are out of your wife’s hair while she’s doing the chores. Believe me, as a mother of twin 1-year old girls, this is the best kind of help. I get more done when I’m alone and can concentrate on my task better than when I’m being interrupted a few dozen times every minute.
Giving Her Quiet Time
This is also a big one because it means you need to take the children OUT of the house. You can make it easier on yourself and take them to the grandparent’s house or a neighbor’s house. It doesn’t matter as long as your woman has some precious time to herself.
This is the one thing that you can do that may just seal the deal for your night with your wife. She’ll be able to relax without the children and pamper herself, which means she’ll feel good about herself and perhaps feel so good that she’ll want to show you.
Talking AND Listening
Talking is never really an issue for people. Listening, however, can be difficult for many. Women are known to talk twice if not three time as much as men so that’s a lot of listening for you guys out there. But listening is a good way to keep your wife from feeling lonely and unhappy. That’s important to you because a lonely and unhappy wife isn’t interested in you inside the bedroom if you’re not interested in her out side the bedroom.
The key to doing all these things for your woman is to do them with no expectations. Women can sense when they’re being manipulated. Making your lady feel special should come from your heart, not the inside of your pants. Your wife may think you’ve gone off the deep end when you start to do these things for her but that’s because it’s something new for her as well. I guarantee the more you do for her, the more she’ll do for you which can only strengthen your relationship both in and out of the bedroom.
