Michael is my husband’s 10-year-old son from a previous relationship. He has lived with us for 3 years now. Before that he lived solely with his biological mother from when he was 10 months old to the age of seven. This is because for very selfish reasons (which you will learn) she disappeared one day with Michael.
When we finally found her and Michael, he was 6 years old and only weighed 34 pounds. We barely gained custody of Michael through a very ridiculous court system. A court system that didn’t want to question the rights of a biological mother. We obtained custody of Michael not because of his weight and appearance but because he was severely and savagely sexually abused by his biological mother.
Yes it is true, women are capable of sexually abusing children. Most of us don’t hear about it because female sexual predators tend to stick close to home and rarely get caught. But it is true, female monsters do exist.
When you first meet Michael you see a very sweet and innocent child with a very soft, low toned voice. He will be polite to you. Michael will ask you all the questions in the world. To the outside he is your typical 10 year old boy.
What people do not see is how disturbed and traumatized he is from the years of torment he has endured. The following is some of the things we have experienced with Michael.
He is a consistent bed wetter. Most psychologists will tell you his is normal for an abused child. For a parent it is a troubling “side effect.”
At the age of 9 he was diagnosed with psychotic disorder non-specified. We have been through a few psychiatrists and numerous medications.
He hears voices in his head. The voices tell him he should kill people or he should commit suicide. He is more than happy to tell you what they are saying to him.
Michael has tried to perpetrate these sexual acts on my son. I am thankful he has not been successful. My son was taught well and all my children are under very careful supervision.
When I was pregnant with my first daughter Michael told me point blank, “I cannot wait until my sister is 8 years old because she will be very sexy”
Children at school do not like Michael. He has a personal space problem. He enjoys invading their space by kissing and hugging on them. His teacher told us at a parent teacher meeting that every child in his class has complained about him.
He has fondled and hurt animals. Michael cannot understand that this is wrong.
We have tried in-patient treatment centers. The places that we have tried so far do not work. They take our money and claim after a week long stay he is better.
This is only a small taste of the pain we have endured as a family. He is a angry little boy who cannot cope living within his own skin. It is heartbreaking and tragic. Sometimes I wonder how he would have been if we would have found him sooner.
The thing that angers me the most is we were told criminal charges could not be filed against his mother. The reasoning is there was not enough evidence and they could not go on the word of a single boy. So she is out there. She is free as can be with no worries or cares.
Some may wonder why I would bare all of this for total strangers to see. My purpose is multi-fold.
I know there are other parents out there experiencing the same heartache. My advice to you is do whatever you can for your child. If it does not work do it anyways. Always try something to help the child. Doing nothing is way more harmful and can have a devastating outcome. Please do not sweep it under the rug and act like it is not their. In the beginning of this epic we thought love alone would heal Michael. We were sadly mistaken and mislead.
I hope by some strange twist of fate a pedophile finds this. I hope they realize how they can disfigure and contort a child’s soul. It is not just some random act. It leads to a lifetime of grief and hurt and torture. It kills a whole childhood. It is the annihilation of innocence.
Education leads to knowledge. Knowledge is power. The more we all know the better off our children will be. Please be aware and take notice women can be just as cruel and vicious as men. I am not condoning a witch hunt but take a closer look in your own backyard. Last but not least….Always listen to the children.
