Obedience in a child who is young and lives at home, where all his or her needs are taken care of, is the key to being successful as an adult when he or she leaves the nest. In life we all have rules we obey, so parents have been given an important role to instill within their children, all the tools necessary to become adults and eventually parents themselves. True, not all homes have parents who impart good values or good living conditions, but despite this, obedience can be learned.
Sure as parents we might test the very fiber of our child’s patience, we might fall many times and bruise their egos. We will make mistakes by the dozen, but despite all that, most times we err out of love for them. Our dedication and resolve for wanting the best for our children might come across as harsh, rather than an act of love. Reminding them that there might be times they will not fully understand why we parent the way we do, can help them in that moment to obey our wishes, despite their desire to rebel against them.
Even as children grow older, the need for obedience is needed. More disagreements seem to arise, as do misunderstandings. Yes, these pre-teen years and teenage years are full of varying degrees of ever changing hormones. They believe, their parents know nothing, but their friends know it all. It’s good to help them to appreciate that you have far more experience in life and you’re trying to direct them in a way that is for their well being. While their friends might be able to relate to the hormone shifts, they can not fully give sound advice that will ensure their safe coarse through those tumultuous years. Most times while kids might grumble and grip they’ll find it easier to obey, if you acknowledge their own very real feelings.
It’s only reasonable to add that mindlessly obeying is not good. If a parent directs a child in a way that is (life threatening or morally wrong) then it’s okay to question that obedience, even reject doing what is asked. Especially if that child could get in trouble with the law, or hurt someone, or get hurt him or herself.
Life is a precious gift, parents are the ones that give it. They’re the ones responsible for “training up a child in the way they should walk”. So obedience to them is a childs gift of appreciation for that life.
Children come into our lives as precious gifts. We want to raise to them to be all that they can be and to accomplish many things in their lives. In order to be able to guide them and lead them on the right path, they need to have someone to respect and teach them the things that are right and wrong. They need us to help them develop a good sense of morals and a code of ethics to live by.Children need to obey their parents because we have the power to teach them lessons in their lives that will follow into future situations. If a child doesn’t respect and obey their parents, they will not respect or obey anyone else. They need to learn that there are certain consequences to things they do and they need to learn to respect the lessons from them.
Parents have the upper hand in making their children obey them. They need to take control and not let the children control them. When a child obeys their parents and listens to them it creates a stronger bond between them. The child will be able to handle situations on their own better and consider the outcome of what they do by what they have learned from their parents.
When parents don’t take control and let their children run wild at a young age, they can expect the same behavior when the child gets older. There will be no respect, no good judgements, and poor common sense.
Obeying parents is fundamental in a child’s development. From parents they learn so much about life, manners, and rules. These things follow them into school, work, and dealing with peers. It also gives them guidelines to follow when they become parents themselves. It prepares them for the things to come.
There is nothing more aggravating than being in a store or restaurant and seeing someones kids running all over the place, yelling, and screaming. There is no reason that a parent can’t have control and make their children obey other than pure laziness. Part of making them obey is enforcing the consequences and sticking to what you say you are going to do.
Children need guidance and they need to learn respect. It is a parents job to make this happen and to help grow people that are going to be upstanding members of our society. If they don’t obey, don’t be afraid to take action. Losing television priveledges or x-box isn’t going to hurt them one bit. Not taking control and making them obey and learn respect can hurt them in the long run and create bigger headaches for you.
