Parenting is a tough task, but adapting the right type of parenting style is even more tough. A lot of people adapt the indulgent parenting style, which is also known as permissive parenting, where a child gets to do anything and everything as per his wishes. But is indulgent parenting really good for your child ? Find out the real truth now……..
It has been observed that people who adapt indulgent parenting style, often have a weak bonding with their children. The major cause of such a weak relationship is the amount of money that parents give their children.
They allow their children to buy the latest gadgets, clothes, spend money on their friends etc, which makes the children carefree, which is why children take charge of their own lives and sometimes choose the wrong path in life.
Another reason why parents adapt indulgent parenting is because they love their children too much and don’t want them to face hardships. If you are amongst the parents who protect their children from the harsh realities of life, then please change right now, or else it might just be too late for your child to lead a successful life. You should know that every parent on earth loves his own child and wants to keep them away from the harsh realities, but what will they do once you are not around ? Will they ever be capable of taking care of themselves ?
You as a parent should try to keep a balance between being lenient and authoritative at times. If your instincts tell you that something is not going right, then most times you might be right. But again we all are humans, and make mistakes at times, so you need to rely on your child as well, and allow him to take care of himself. Interfering too much in your child’s private life may just want him to leave the house and stay separately. Sometimes it might even cause psychological disorders.
Below mentioned are some tips for indulgent parents:
1) Stop giving your child too much money, and make sure that your child is spending it on the right things.
2) When at home, delegate responsibilities and reward them at the completion of the job.
3) Always motivate your child and allow him to do things himself and let him have an experience of what it is like to do the job, rather than theoretically explaining him about it.
4) Don’t hide the truth. No matter how hard it is to speak it. It might be about health, habits, sex, misconceptions or anything you don’t want to talk about. If you child feels hurt, take the time to soothe him through his pains, but make sure you have said what is important.
5) Never flatter your child.
6) Teach your child to respect himself and create self esteem in his own eyes. Let him treat others with the same
respect that he would give himself.
7) Last but not the least, keep a balance between being too permissive and being too authoritative.
