A loss is hard for anyone no matter whom it is you lose. It can be a loved one or maybe a close friend. Either way it’s hard to deal with a loss when you’re the one who is still living and still has to go on. There are ways to help you deal with loss and learn how to cope with the grieving process.
Cope with Death Tip #1- Time- You need to give yourself plenty of time to grieve and deal with your loss. It can take a lot of time for some people. There is no time frame for this. Life will go on; it just may take a bit longer for you to realize this. So give yourself time to cope with what has happened. Just know that it may take you more time then it takes someone else. Everyone grieves in their own way and the amount of time it takes varies from person to person. Learning to take one day at a time in the beginning will help you grieve easier, rather then looking at the long term picture.
Cope with Death Tip #2- Family- Don’t forget that you still have family left and they may be trying to help you. Even though you may feel as you want to be alone, you need to let your family in. This doesn’t mean that you can’t have some alone time. It just means that you should let your family in so they can help you. Maybe they can help you do daily things such as chores, so that’s less you have to worry about and a nice long hug never hurt anyone.
Cope with Death Tip #3- Health- You need to remember your health during this hard time. You should get plenty of rest, eat your meals and take showers. So many people don’t know how to cope with death, so they just let go of their normal living. They stop taking showers, doing their hair, getting dressed and eating. This is no good for you and will just slip you into a deep depression. This will just make matters worse. You have to remember that life is still going on even though you are grieving. Have a good cry and then jump into the shower. You will be surprised at how much better you actually feel when you’re done. Make sure you eat so you can stay healthy as you don’t want to get sick on top of grieving.
Cope with Death Tip #4- Memories- Just because a loved one has passed away doesn’t mean they need to be forgotten. You shouldn’t take all their pictures off the walls and you shouldn’t lock their memories away. Some will suggest taking some pictures down though. If your house is filled with their pictures and items, then packing some away will do you some good. This may be a way to say goodbye to them. Ask for help if it’s too hard to place their things in a box. You don’t have to get rid of things, just put it away. Keep a few reminders and a few pictures out in the open. If you’re crafty try making a memory book for them. I did this for my husband when his grandparents passed. He didn’t have many pictures of them, but loved them more then anything. His grandparents are the ones who practically raised him, so when they passed it was hard for him to deal with things. I made him a memory book with pictures I collected from his family members. When ever he thinks about them and misses them, he can simply look at this book and be filled with lots of memories.
Cope with Death Tip #5- Support- If you are not grieving all that well or you think your family just doesn’t understand, then why not look for someone who does understand. Call a grief therapist and make an appointment so you can go talk with them. They will have many ideas that can help you. Along with that, it’s sometimes nice to just talk with an outside person who is no bias. If this is not the way you want to do things, then look for support groups. You will find people who are grieving just like you are. You can help them grieve while they help you. Having someone else to help is a great help during the grieving process. You can physically go to a support group or you can find many online.
