Many parents of a newborn rush out and purchase a blanket that was designed specifically to be a child’s security blanket. These soft, plush squares of fabric appeal to the parents and they are the correct size for the ideal “blankie”. Unfortunately, as your baby grows he will develop his own viewpoints on what the ideal “blankie” should be and they will probably not fit the parents desired, specially purchased blanket.
Many children end up choosing a rough, large blanket that is often unbecoming and far removed from a baby blanket. Why does your child choose such a blanket? Its hard to say but it normally holds some place in the child’s heart. Perhaps the blanket was used to wrap him in when he was sick. Maybe the blanket is always on the couch or other furniture so it gives the child a sense of peace and security when he wraps within its warm depths. Many children end up lugging around a queen size comforter because it brings them a sense of security that no other blanket ever will.
Parents often try to wean their toddler away from the beloved blankie because it embarrasses them when their child lugs a blanket from location to location. Weaning the child from the blanket can be extremely traumatic and should be discouraged. Most children will simply give up the security blanket when they no longer need to climb under its warm and inviting depth to feel safe. There is no reason to rob a child of that sense of true security too young.
Between the ages of two and three most children begin to develop a deep sense of imagination. They will think that monsters are real and this will build fears within them. But just as their believe in mythical monsters develops their believe in a magical security blanket strengthens. The blanket can offer safety in the middle of the night when mom and dad are no where to be found. They can also offer comfort.
Even when a child finally gives up their beloved blanket they will often want it folded up and saved. It marks a time in their childhood that can never be recaptured. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if an adult could feel safe and secure simply by wrapping themselves in a single blanket.
When your child finally gives up their security blanket it, launder the blanket and place it in a safe place. At some point in your child’s life they will want to pull the old blanket out and remember just how magical it felt to be curled within its safe depth.
Try to limit the child’s use of the security blanket as he ages. Many daycare centers will not allow security blankets. Discuss with your child that the magical blankie needs to remain home until nightfall when your child can cuddle with it all he wants too. Most children will begin to listen and learn. If the explanation of why the child cannot take the blanket with them makes sense than they will normally relinquish it during the daylight hours if they are promised their beloved blanket when the sun sets.
Remember to try to see things through your child’s eyes so you can offer him a sense of security until he no longer needs it and grows up completely. Try to be patient during the blankie phase because toddlers grow up quickly.
