Relationships 101: How to Handle and Cope with Differences

In relationships – no matter what kind – the spice of life between people may oftentimes give a welcoming flavor, but too much spice can create tumult and spin any relationship into a state of chaos. Oftentimes, too many differences can prove to be quite unsettling and troubling. People may not always view eye to eye on many topics. There can exist differences of opinion on significant issues, or presenting new approaches to life may be disconcerting to those not able to understand fully.

When differences surface in a relationship, they can be perceived either positively or negatively. If you are finding that there is trouble in a relationship that you’re in due to differences of personality or opinions, try turning the negative issues into more productive positive outcomes. Even a broth filled with too much spice can be watered down. Differences can be a valuable ingredient and essential part of learning. Turning the tide on differences by not allowing judgmental obstinancy to creep in, can also create positive and more fruitful experiences.

Communication is a necessity for the understanding and acceptance of differences in any relationship, enabling differences to come out as positive aspects within a relationship. It signifies an open exchange of ideas, and this can be possible only when all parties involved are willing to not only talk but to listen just as equally. In taking the time to listen attentively without quickly passing judgment and truly making the understanding effort towards another person’s perspective, will result positively with people turning their differences into strengths within their relationships. Thereby, ending by bringing people much closer together in the process.

For those individuals having difficulty in opening the lines of communication, there are ways and methods to start the “positive pow-wow” going. Even something quite simple as reminding oneself to not interrupt whilst another person is talking can achieve wonders. If the waves are strained with the inability
for discussion, making a gentle attempt to start one can prove a way to show the willingness in wanting to work things out.

Here are some ways and/or guidelines to help a bruised relationship back on a positive track towards better understanding and communication:

Listen

In order for all parties in a relationship to feel at ease and comfortable, they must think and feel that they’re being listened to. Taking the time to really hear what people have on their minds without judgments or interruptions is the most crucial start in mending the emotional hurts and bruises. It is the most significant part to do in order for a well-functioning relationship to unfold. This step may be harder than what it is seems, but in trying to salvage a relationship, listening is a necessary ingredient which can be mastered in the doing. Whatever happens, don’t listen just to “pretend” you’re listening to give off the impression or appearance that you’re willing to respect the other person’s views for them, when all you’re thinking about is waiting for the opportunity to voice your own opinion. That is not listening. To seriously listen means to be willing to participate your energy with the person you’re listening to.

Talk

Don’t be scared to voice what is on your mind, even if you’re uncertain on how other people will handle it. It is significant to get things out in the open than to allow your frustrations within yourself to fester. Make certain that tact is involved when communicating. A voicing of opinions which is focused will be readily more acceptable to a listening audience.

Respect

Don’t only think of yourself. Give other people the same space and opportunity to express themselves in the same manner in which you’d like to have or be given. After all, it’s all about an equal exchange of energies. When discussing with other people, don’t always think you must win the argument because you feel you can out-reason the person you’re discussing with. Once again, use tact without seeking to condescend or patronizing the other individual. Allow them their reasonings as well. You may surprisingly find that they are not as irrational or incompatible as they seemed initially. If you can’t find yourself agreeing with the viewpoint of the other individual, then stress that you are willing to agree on the disagreements. A resolution for peace should be the outcome.

Overall

In any relationship, differences can prove to be problems, but with sincere efforts to work out the differences, resolutions can be obtained with healthy communication. There should not have to exist a burning of bridges.