How to Massage a Pregnant Woman

For married men, one of the best ways to show your wife that you really care about her when she is pregnant is by massaging her. Even if she does not ask for a massage, if you notice she is struggling with her back, you should massage it.

Positioning

This is one of the most important parts, because the fact she is pregnant will demand other kinds of positions other than the traditional position of laying flat on one’s belly. This position, of course, is out of the question, since she has a child there and it would be painful for her (and suffocating to the child) to have her laying flat on her stomach.

One of the best positions in this case is laying on a side, with the shoulders leaning so that she is face down from the shoulders, but the belly will be to the side. Some women might consider this a little discomforting, but I have observed that it works well with my wife.

Another position that works well is kneeling by the bedside and having the shoulders supported by the bed (in other words, a kneeling position on the floor, and the torso with everything above it resting on the bed). This keeps the back relaxed so that a proper massage can be given. If the floor is too hard for her, put a little pillow under her knees so she will not hurt them. The point is making sure that the belly isn’t pressured in any way.

And, of course, to massage her feet, what better position than having her lay on her back, or sit on a couch with her feet elevated by, say, a pouf?

Places to Massage Her

Pregnant women particularly enjoy being massaged in the legs, the back, and the feet. These are the places that are most affected by pregnancy, since she has extra weight to carry all day, and probably is not used to having this much weight, especially if she was very thin before she got pregnant.

Remember to massage her slowly. Do not make her think that you are in some sort of hurry to get it over with. If you put passion, love, and tenderness into your massage, you will get the best effect out of it. Do not press her hard, or else your massage will do more harm than good. Only do this if she asks.

Benefits of Giving Her a Massage

Massage is a passionate activity. When done from a husband to a wife, it signifies that he really cares about her sincerely and wants to make her feel as comfortable as possible. During pregnancy, she will appreciate this even more, because you are making her feel worthy of your attention and that you are worthy as a caring father. Make sure to offer her a massage whenever she says “I’m tired.” Treat her like a queen, because she is going through something very intense, and surely enough, although she does not mention it, there are a lot of things that lower her self esteem and make her sensitive during this time. The best thing you can do is make her feel like she deserves the best attention there is to offer.