BDSM: Setting Up a Dominant Role

Every submissive has a different desire or picture in their minds on the Dominant they want, or that will best fit their needs. For some it is the strict Head Mistress that gives out constant rules and punishment with little praise. For others it is the Motherly type, that gives out punishment but also comfort and love and an abundance of praise when things have been done well. Another Dominant woman role is the Goddess.

The Goddess is the unattainable the ultimate desire that the submissive wishes to reach but believes they never can. The Goddesses role is to keep the submissive at a distance, to keep them yearning and striving, giving only pieces of themselves never the whole. The anticipation and wait of never having the prize is what satisfies the submissives desires. It also makes the ultimate gift out of the time the Dominant gives to the submissive, everything becomes precious. Once the Dominant gives themselves fully to the submissive than it is an emotional and physical explosion. Because of the mental training that goes into this however the Goddess can repeat the long waiting and slow surrender of the role again and again. However if you are the Dominant you have to be prepared and have a plan laid out for the seduction and satisfaction for your submissive.

Once you and your submissive have come to the determination of what roles suit you both best than you can sit down and start the planning. First as a Goddess you want to start with almost no touching, and when they sleep they sleep either in another bed or on your floor. Sleeping in bed with you is a privilege and they haven’t gained that yet, giving that to them before they have does not make them ultimately happy no matter their complaint. During scenes and the intimate times you share deny touching of certain parts of yourself, maybe the most intimate. Also deny them certain touches from you such as kissing on the lips or full body to body contact. Everything you give to your submissive needs to be attained and worked for.

For example: For the first week of your Goddess role you can have ground rules that your submissive is never allow to touch you unless it is in obeisance at your feet and only from the knee down. If they does this without faltering or complaining for a full week you can allow them more of you to touch, and this is their prize and they will treasure.

Also remember that as a Dominant you still need to be protective, guiding, and loving your submissive. Coldness needs to be reserved for times of punishment or training. Even submissives that desire to submit to a Goddess that is cold and distant still needs to know they are loved and precious. This is a hard role to take on as a beginning Dominant but very rewarding for you and your submissive.