I have been married for nigh on 21 years…to the same guy. We have four kids. Life is busy and hectic. We go to work and then we come home and work some more. The kids need shoes, visits to the doctor, clothes, etc. We go to a store almost everyday for some necessity. There is constant paperwork and bills to pay. The laundry never ends. The dishes pile up. Our elderly parents need care. The cars always need work. The house is in constant need of repair. The cats are always demanding something. The yard needs attention. It Nieves ends. And the piece de resistance for my spouse and I is that we never get to sleep together; he works nights and I work days.
After weeks of hardly ever even seeing each other, let alone spending some quality time alone when one or both of us was not falling asleep or dead on our feet, we knew it was time for some ‘us’ time. Sex was infrequent and had to be penciled in. On the rare occasions that we can even be together our spirits are but the flesh is weak. We put our heads together and came up with some fun intimate things to do that cost next to nothing and yet rejuvenated our marriage immensely.
Venus and Adonis: The old baroque masters loved to paint this seductive Olympian pair in all sorts of compromising positions, usually naked and involving food. To play Venus and Adonis, feed each other grapes or berries orally. Put a berry in your mouth (we prefer seedless green grapes or strawberries). Pass it to your partner’s mouth with your teeth or tongue. Enjoy the fruit during a nice, long kiss.
Tattoo You: Put temporary tattoos on each other’s bodies in sensual places: Ankle, inner thigh, inner arm, inner wrist are the best places. You can buy temporary tattoos almost anywhere. They go on with pressure and a little water (try using your tongue!) The tattooers wash off very easily and will not cause rashes.
Playful Picassos: Try some body art; like face painting, paint each other with non-toxic children’s face paint on the belly, thigh or chest. Let your creative juices flow. The slight tickling feeling of the brush is fun and exciting also.
Dessert’s on me: Using a can of cake frosting for body frosting and a soft new paint brush to apply frosting on each other’s sensuous spots. Obviously you’ll need to clean up this stick, tasty mess and the tongue is the perfect tool.
Strip Twister: This is like the regular twister game in which you must touch various colors with hands and feet, only each time one of you misses or falls, well let’s just say there goes another article of clothing off! Soon you’ll find yourself partially clothed laughing and all intermingled together.
Don’t be afraid to try these games and have some fun. Sex is not dirty and within marriage, it’s safe and appropriate. Sex is healthy and therapeutic also. Life gets so hectic and busy that we all need some innocent fun and excitement.
